How to win a man?

How to win a man's heart?

By Zoona Javed

As cliché it sounds. It’s really hard to win a man but in my opinion every man out there ought three ingredients in a woman; loyalty (fidelity), lovemaking and support.

If you got these three attributes in your personality girl, you have to win your man whether how difficult, complicated catch he might be.

Loyalty:

Faithfulness is what your partner needs the most. He simply wants you to know that you abide by him no matter what the financial situation or crisis he is facing.

Do not leave him in the difficult times/in times of need.

Man will provide you everything if you are willing to assure him about being loyal to him. when asked men around one young lad told that "loyalty is overrated these days and if they will loyal to us we will make impossible things possible for them"

Support:

Support here does not mean any sort of financial one but to uplift him morally, in his career failure, and in the time of crisis give him a shoulder to cry on. Usually men are considered to be ruthlessly heartless, strong, brutal, stone-hearted, and emotionless, but a big NO, they need their partners to listen to them.

Love Making:

Who does not know that every man present on the planet earth wants to get laid or should I put it this way it is no longer a secret that all men want to make love to their women. When asked men about it a young advocate Ehsan uttered that "physical connection is also one-way to express your love, feelings and emotions"

Another man a dear friend engineer by profession said that "it is as simple as a woman desires to have loads of kisses, chocolates and presents from her man as a symbol of love, for man sexual relation is significant, essential and a way of expressing love".

Survey:

When asked random men on social media; getting a platform to mouth their opinion everybody gave me an overwhelming response and many were of the view that "no women whether mother or wife/girlfriend ever cared for our desires, needs and wants, we men are the most unheard creatures; the utmost issue is that our women doesn't understand our feelings which lead us to have extramarital affairs".

"When you want to make some space in someone's heart make a space in their life first. Don't make it complex, just don't push it too much otherwise you will not achieve what you want. For a man easy target means nothing. Even if you like someone don't show it. Until you are sure they feel the same for you." says Faiz Baig.

"Mans heart can be won by respecting him first but it’s not only women who should respect it is give and take and also share ones heart don’t create fuss out of nothing but to solve any issue if pertains mutually respect man's parents and u will get double back. Also women should take care of men like our eastern traditions as they say a man's way to the heart is good food so women should try to enhance culinary skills," says Shiraz.

"Make him comfortable in each and everything discuss problems if any and give space to each other it’s not like that every time women should keep an eye on the man and what is he doing where is he who is the meeting etc because these things can sometimes backfire", Shiraz went on to say.

"We do not want anything else, the woman should be beautiful enough rest there is no chance that she won't be winning our heart," says Murtaza.

"A woman should be more friendly, open-minded and caring instead of physical love I prefer I guess this is the key to win a man's heart, and woman should never try to overshadow or show dominance over the man as it takes man away from her and also in Quran, Allah SWT has clearly mentioned that I have made man to treat a woman with care and affection and it is woman's duty to obey him". says Fayaz khan a military man.

Personally, I have seen many men around who were suffering due to arranged marriages, sometimes wife's ignorance, and subversive traits; suppress his wishes due to mother and wife's unpleasant terms.

When asked my granddad about his experience of being a husband and in accordance with him what a man wants? He told that "we men are not that complex-ed beings, as we all wish simple things in life, even few clothes will do our years of wardrobe sorted, on the contrary women needs special treatment, wants pampering etc we just want attention, respect and admiration".

Also Asked my mum about it and she added to this controversial topic that for young girls my suggestion would be that receive your husband with a beautiful smile, fragrance do attract a man-put some alluring perfume, your hygiene matters a lot, man doesn't want to see Surkhi/powder (lipstick/face powder) but a lady who makes him feels like a king of their small world as he is the ultimate bread earner, he needs nothing but a little care and affection when gets back home."

Viola! I would sum up this discussion that mutual respect, care, support, and romance are the ingredients to spice up a man's life and conclusive way of vanquishing a man's heart and if you do little effort for your man you cannot even imagine what he will do to make your life better and compensate you with.

I love him because I have seen many married men alone and mentally stressed committing suicide. Love them and they will make you their princesses.

Love them because Prophet (PBUH) said when a wife and husband look at each other with love, Allah looks at them with mercy. (Sahih Bukhari)

Love your husband because a married woman enters Jannah through her husband, if he is satisfied with her (loyalty, love, and respect) says (Sahih Bukhari)